7 THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT TELL YOU MAN/BOYFRIEND

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<3 MY NEW SIX THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT TELL YOU MAN/BOYFRIEND NO MATTER THE SITUATION<3

1. Things were going swimmingly well until your last
outburst. He has suddenly gone into a shell and
snapped all communication with you.
You fear having meandered into a forbidden territory,
and that things might never be the same again. But
still can’t point at what exactly went wrong?
One scathing remark is all it takes to shut him
down, so even while you are in the middle of a
serious fight, remember your vocabulary is key.
Jesting about his mom, reminding him of an ex, are
just some of the terrible things you can ever say to
him. And in so doing create lasting scars in your
relationship. We list six awful phrases that turn him
red in the face, and need to be done away with…
pronto.

2. ‘Look how smart my brother is, you can never
be like him’

Comparisons drive men away! So, simply stop
making them, even if they are genuine. Particularly
comparisons with your brother, father or worst of all
another guy friend can trigger resentment in him.
Feels Santosh Krishna, a software engineer, “As long
it is a fair argument, I am all for it. But the
moment my wife brings her father or brother in the
frame, I withdraw. It is extremely demeaning for a
guy who is doing his two bit to make her happy.”
Agreed, he may not have control over situations the
way your father does and usually fidgets his way
out, but never insult him by telling him so, even in
the most deranged of moments.

3. ‘I just know you can’t get over her’

If you think this is the best way of getting back at
him, then think again. Fine, you want to find out a
few intimate details about his past life, but just
watch out – never force your way through. He shall
not take such an intrusion kindly. Furthermore, it’ll
only distance you from him, and he might think of
you as someone very insecure in relationships. It’s best
to leave it at that and save him the discomfort. On
many instances you end up reminding him fondly of
an ex. So, simply steer clear of the subject. If it is out
of bounds, so be it.
Chips in Ashrita Reys doing her masters in English,
“I had a bad fight with my boyfriend once and
accused him of still loving an ex. He gave me a
glowering look and offered to drop me back home. It
was strange, hadn’t thought he would take serious
offence.”

4. ‘God, how much money do you blow on your
friends!’

Remember, they are ‘His’ friends, and he shall
splurge on him as he desires. Your constant reminders
can make him jerky, and one day he might simply
stop sharing money matters with you. Guys hate to
be told how to spend, especially on their friends. And
if you are having trouble with his spending ways,
tell him so in other words, but never accusingly. “My
boyfriend always ends up paying up for dinner,
drinks etc when he is out with his friends. Oddly,
they never even offer and he is okay with it. But gets
annoyed when I tell him not to do so,” says Sunaina
Verma, a travel consultant.
For him, money is one thing and friends another. He
will take you as a friendship breaker if you
attempted to blend the two together. So, save your
lecture on managing finances for another occasion!

5. ‘What’s with your mom, does she always have
a poker face’

He may have promised you the moon and the stars
and to love you till the end of the world, but one
snide remark directed at his mom can suddenly turn
you into a villain. Yes, that is one relationship he
jealously guards, and shall not let even you meddle
with. His mom’s cold indifference or those long
glances may have you squirming in discomfiture,
but steer clear of voicing them to him. He will simply
regard you as snooty and disrespectful towards
elders.
Sritapa Roy who recently got engaged to her long-
time boyfriend has a say, “My would-be-mum-in-
law always makes me uncomfortable, she casts long,
considering looks when I talk. I did try to broach the
issue with my fiance but he turned it down calling
me selfish and cynical.”

6. ‘Not today please, I am too sleepy’

Using a line like this will not only turn him off, but
also make him wonder if he is with the right girl. He
might start considering that a life with you would
be full of drab domestic chores, grocery shopping and
winding up before the television by day end. By
depriving him of any kind of bedroom thrill you
might pass on the message, though inadvertently,
that ‘sex with you is no longer pleasurable’. And
wake up to a sea change in his mannerism. As a
couple it is fair to talk it out, but to come up with
banal excuses each time you don’t want to have sex
is sacrilege.
Explains Prashant Sirohi, a marketing executive, “My
ex girlfriend was never in a mood for lovemaking. I
thought the idea of sex with me put her off. So,
gradually I started distancing myself from her, and
subsequently we broke up.”

7. Using the ‘F’ word

‘F’ words may be acceptable in general arguments,
but to actually use one on your partner could spell
doom for your relationship. It is absolutely
unforgivable and he will loathe you for it. Even if
you both make up for the fight later, you are
assured he’ll never completely forget about it.
Saloni Shah, pursuing her MBA thinks, abusing your
partner is the worst thing you can do to your
relationship. “In the middle of a fiery argument with
my husband I blurted out the ‘F’ word, and suddenly
everything around me went quiet. He dropped the
discussion and did not speak to me for over a week. I
still feel guilty about it,” says she.
So, even when your rage turns tempestuous, there is
sanity in not letting go of your vocabulary.

i my self  have issues too but please lets not  not allow our self issues gut something unique the more we think we right than the other the more damage we input thanks for reading do me a favour and save others the brake ups by sharing this thanks like it too.

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